<转帖>孩子是因你而来,不是为你而来

秀色可餐

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今天偶然看到这首纪伯伦的诗，觉得很好，贴出来和大家一起分享

/ y4 p8 a7 [3 H4 q8 o1 sOn Children
. b3 G+ G( [1 h; }" G7 e' u Kahlil Gibran
& l9 X" n8 a# B* uYour children are not your children.
4 ]8 \/ _- p" G2 LThey are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
, {  l$ l+ H  ^1 n6 `4 s5 d# ZThey come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.
# [) t* ]" k6 {- t$ A4 B3 L, MYou may give them your love but not your thoughts,
4 \6 B1 G8 }0 Y  I1 d: y6 A# @For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
8 m) b+ r8 I1 W6 H) gFor their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
2 \* B3 x1 H/ A5 I7 ewhich you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them,
but seek not to make them like you.
- E; B, O7 W2 Z% T& vFor life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
0 M7 p& {6 Y6 z* ?9 gYou are the bows from which your children
% j! o: z' t3 `* k* Jas living arrows are sent forth.
  n) f( X0 W: S" V% {8 WThe archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,
and He bends you with His might
0 [* X: y; g  fthat His arrows may go swift and far.
0 N% b* K) o+ j8 O- s; }* l4 n3 BLet your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies,
so He loves also the bow that is stable.

秀色可餐

下面是中文翻译，可能不是很贴切。当你真正体会到其中的涵义时，便会发现其中“爱”、“放手”、“分清责任”、“信任”、“尊重”、“正向信念”这些家庭教育的真谛都包含其中。
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你的子女，其实不是你的子女。
: z7 ]3 Q6 ^- l/ F  \6 N他们是生命对于自身渴望而诞生的孩子。
3 g9 `  Q7 w4 k- M. a" C7 k5 p他们借助你来到这世界，却非因你而来。
他们在你身旁，却并不属于你。
2 U8 p2 ?- c$ ?  z; ]你可以给予他们的是你的爱，却不是你的思想，
因为他们有自己的思想。
你可以庇护的是他们的身体，却不是他们的灵魂，
因为他们的灵魂属于明天，属于你做梦都无法到达的明天，
你可以拚尽全力，变得像他们一样，
却不要让他们变得和你一样，
因为生命不会后退，也不在过去停留。
你是弓，儿女是从你那里射出的箭。
' w, x! ~6 w( G% ]9 \2 G1 }9 }弓箭手望着未来之路上的箭靶，
它用尽力气将你拉开，使他的箭射得又快又远。
( I# Z- F+ t6 [5 I$ D怀着快乐的心情，在弓箭手的手中弯曲吧，
6 E8 u5 o  E6 C4 z, }0 c因为他爱一路飞翔的箭，也爱无比稳定的弓。

马桶上的思想家

太美了，而且句句精辟深刻！

钱小妹

体会体会，非常有理

Rainbowjj

真是好文，谢谢分享！！！