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9 P3 T2 s: k! j6 d# I6 U幼儿园还要再给他像你说的这样办一遍的，和家长弄是不矛盾的，美好记忆完全可以更多一点，没有必要限制，只要精力和财力允许，完全可以办生日会，生日会怎么算也算不着不好的风气8 k3 j2 b6 c$ z/ I8 |
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娃是很知道party的special的， ...- S3 t6 R, V, U0 ]. B; { s
sweetlele 发表于 2011-4-15 22:43 
9 z- a1 `7 ]" h- ]9 r0 a我认为大型生日会是不良风气，因为一部分有精力财力的家庭给没有精力财力的家庭造成了压力，父母因为担心孩子因此受到压力，而不得不举办同样形式的生日会。而这种形式并没有赋予生日会特别的意义。比如乐乐你设定的20元礼物符合标准，一个月9个生日，180元礼品预算，承受不起的家庭，是不是就没有能力让自己孩子参加朋友的生日会这样的社交活动？
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我家的财力精力大概不能和乐乐家比，但是我觉得给小孩子的生日大肆刷卡不是一件值得提倡的事情，有悖我的教育观念。 B2 Q) r, {1 H, F8 E1 b' D
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另外，我搜了一下，中外对小孩子生日会都有反对声音。这个网站特别好，http://birthdayswithoutpressure.org/专门讲生日会的，为什么当前的生日会是不良风气，有比我更多更好的解释和说明。其中也提到了乐乐你说的学校办一遍家长办一遍的问题，提到了孩子要赶很多生日会的问题。
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对孩子的不良影响也有非常详细的列举
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For Kids: $ F( Q! a7 l4 E' U1 Z* @
Not all children face each of these consequences, but enough children experience them to give us worry. & _ i3 E4 }# g' i
They get stressed out from parties that are too large and too orchestrated.
1 k7 g" y$ [+ j g They are overindulged by too many presents. 7 n' P6 U/ k. F( M$ J
They feel entitled to what they want, not just what they need. 4 {6 m" k2 c. \9 H m
They feel envious of friends who get more—and someone will always get more.
6 X; `1 B; F0 @5 N c! I They feel disappointed, because enough is never enough./ X1 j) S+ Z! p7 D
Long term, they develop materialistic values that equate personal celebrations with accumulating things.
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2 Z# s" Z6 X S! tFor Parents: ) b( N2 ~/ e3 y4 F' e
Some parents say they are happy with birthday parties that drive other parents up the wall. But we have talked to many parents who report these consequences.
* J2 C8 o0 t+ P# b7 J, k+ lThey feel pressured to “make” their child “happy” by meeting escalating community standards for parties. ) C' ^# }) d4 |
They feel guilty if the party was below community standards that they don’t really agree with.
; _- x5 R6 f- W/ _$ @4 ^% Z2 c/ V( ~They feel overloaded with TOO MUCH STUFF, which they have to manage, organize, and clean up.2 `) f( D, W: j* n9 a
They feel an energy drain from planning, shopping, preparing, and hosting the party.! h8 p P. F# I7 _. i* [
They feel regret or resentment afterwards when their child, or others, is not appreciative enough—“Why did I extend myself so much?”
" ?5 z& Y/ r. r8 iThey run up debt from their own parties and from buying gifts for other parties.. ^, N3 p7 U1 Y. @2 q
They experience couple strife when parents do not agree on how big to make the party and how to carry it off.
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. J0 N5 ^2 V( B: W1 JFor the Community and Culture:
' {( d' X k, ^: xThis issue is bigger than individual families. Personal decisions affect the wider world. Out of control birthday parties contribute to:
' x1 C+ V0 q1 N3 Q( y0 _! x! R5 gA too much stuff culture $ e& L- G1 P3 r) ?5 o; @4 d
A me first culture3 v; D$ h4 d5 ]) k y
A trash and waste culture4 C( i3 B7 a7 s6 Z
An entitlement culture2 b* [. J& A" B: i' @
A envy culture. ~3 c& i1 n+ ?
A more of everything culture |
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楼主: babalala001
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发表于 2011-4-15 18:34
显身卡
。 我老大三岁不到时被邀请参加了一个三岁小朋友的生日会，整个过程的程式化，送的东西昂贵又垃圾程度，父母劳命伤财的准备，孩子无所谓的样子，把我刺激的不轻，决定5岁前肯定不办生日 ...
发表于 2011-4-15 18:44
智慧女神总是那么高瞻远瞩
还以为三大爷挺老实的，在您的精心调教下
发表于 2011-4-16 11:10