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幼儿园还要再给他像你说的这样办一遍的，和家长弄是不矛盾的，美好记忆完全可以更多一点，没有必要限制，只要精力和财力允许，完全可以办生日会，生日会怎么算也算不着不好的风气1 u! V) S( Y x3 H( B" d
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& b( b) Z* h& l/ I# Msweetlele 发表于 2011-4-15 22:43 
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我认为大型生日会是不良风气，因为一部分有精力财力的家庭给没有精力财力的家庭造成了压力，父母因为担心孩子因此受到压力，而不得不举办同样形式的生日会。而这种形式并没有赋予生日会特别的意义。比如乐乐你设定的20元礼物符合标准，一个月9个生日，180元礼品预算，承受不起的家庭，是不是就没有能力让自己孩子参加朋友的生日会这样的社交活动？# m: V0 x& E" k. M" a
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我家的财力精力大概不能和乐乐家比，但是我觉得给小孩子的生日大肆刷卡不是一件值得提倡的事情，有悖我的教育观念。
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另外，我搜了一下，中外对小孩子生日会都有反对声音。这个网站特别好，http://birthdayswithoutpressure.org/专门讲生日会的，为什么当前的生日会是不良风气，有比我更多更好的解释和说明。其中也提到了乐乐你说的学校办一遍家长办一遍的问题，提到了孩子要赶很多生日会的问题。0 a3 F- k1 D6 d) ^) E8 d# j7 m
" k; J. d; @0 x3 c- n对孩子的不良影响也有非常详细的列举0 n3 b! l0 f$ q0 e# ~8 O; i
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For Kids:
5 l4 ~; a6 [" E5 N7 X$ @Not all children face each of these consequences, but enough children experience them to give us worry. & M c8 M3 y: Z- I o6 h. n
They get stressed out from parties that are too large and too orchestrated.* i4 Q/ x8 p! C* ?* {' m
They are overindulged by too many presents.
+ Y; Z9 f5 l) e2 a$ J9 y' Y. ` h/ \They feel entitled to what they want, not just what they need.
1 F- C. k6 m2 n7 H& VThey feel envious of friends who get more—and someone will always get more.2 i! s" k( j; z3 n, J2 K ]9 Y$ }
They feel disappointed, because enough is never enough.
/ [8 u( {& U# t$ Q$ J Long term, they develop materialistic values that equate personal celebrations with accumulating things.# t; S1 {9 j: C6 t- l- h% k
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For Parents:
+ ]& {! l$ @0 K! c% FSome parents say they are happy with birthday parties that drive other parents up the wall. But we have talked to many parents who report these consequences.' I9 Z$ U: X% [
They feel pressured to “make” their child “happy” by meeting escalating community standards for parties.
* P# S2 F3 g' t: UThey feel guilty if the party was below community standards that they don’t really agree with.
. ]! j& _# T4 s' ^/ Y9 F9 K9 L% @They feel overloaded with TOO MUCH STUFF, which they have to manage, organize, and clean up./ \: R% s/ h) o3 ^. K
They feel an energy drain from planning, shopping, preparing, and hosting the party.
+ S9 K) A. b7 i! l6 UThey feel regret or resentment afterwards when their child, or others, is not appreciative enough—“Why did I extend myself so much?”
8 d; s; I( } ~/ T0 S' fThey run up debt from their own parties and from buying gifts for other parties./ z2 M z- [1 \7 N2 m
They experience couple strife when parents do not agree on how big to make the party and how to carry it off.0 \/ ^/ @0 V6 M6 D
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This issue is bigger than individual families. Personal decisions affect the wider world. Out of control birthday parties contribute to:: n! ]- \, G+ Q9 a. o
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A me first culture
5 a8 s5 M0 a# ?: D2 ?A trash and waste culture
0 [% c3 V+ Z1 n6 s/ [& p4 p# b: AAn entitlement culture" Z: O+ Z. p6 H* Q. U8 E
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A more of everything culture |
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楼主: babalala001
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发表于 2011-4-15 18:34
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。 我老大三岁不到时被邀请参加了一个三岁小朋友的生日会，整个过程的程式化，送的东西昂贵又垃圾程度，父母劳命伤财的准备，孩子无所谓的样子，把我刺激的不轻，决定5岁前肯定不办生日 ...) p& e) n8 x* y+ @- v+ ]* Y
发表于 2011-4-15 18:44
智慧女神总是那么高瞻远瞩
还以为三大爷挺老实的，在您的精心调教下
发表于 2011-4-16 11:10