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6 u! p4 k# h1 M' f- v! V0 ~+ y幼儿园还要再给他像你说的这样办一遍的，和家长弄是不矛盾的，美好记忆完全可以更多一点，没有必要限制，只要精力和财力允许，完全可以办生日会，生日会怎么算也算不着不好的风气1 D( p b& x7 e) [3 o
9 ]8 R+ u5 x7 }! z娃是很知道party的special的， ...' I6 |4 v- d/ Z; N' m* e* F
sweetlele 发表于 2011-4-15 22:43 
8 \ I- q: k1 I我认为大型生日会是不良风气，因为一部分有精力财力的家庭给没有精力财力的家庭造成了压力，父母因为担心孩子因此受到压力，而不得不举办同样形式的生日会。而这种形式并没有赋予生日会特别的意义。比如乐乐你设定的20元礼物符合标准，一个月9个生日，180元礼品预算，承受不起的家庭，是不是就没有能力让自己孩子参加朋友的生日会这样的社交活动？9 ~7 x( i1 r( j- `
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我家的财力精力大概不能和乐乐家比，但是我觉得给小孩子的生日大肆刷卡不是一件值得提倡的事情，有悖我的教育观念。- X) E* w4 `, R" U; t
/ |/ g3 q( [& |1 P" d* Q5 [5 U另外，我搜了一下，中外对小孩子生日会都有反对声音。这个网站特别好，http://birthdayswithoutpressure.org/专门讲生日会的，为什么当前的生日会是不良风气，有比我更多更好的解释和说明。其中也提到了乐乐你说的学校办一遍家长办一遍的问题，提到了孩子要赶很多生日会的问题。! O2 B4 W& \- e8 I c6 m
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For Kids:
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5 p# @& l, [5 z7 }2 r0 s6 y$ wThey get stressed out from parties that are too large and too orchestrated.
+ J* S, i. @% ]' R They are overindulged by too many presents. 2 _( X7 ~& r. {' H7 o% Q2 Z
They feel entitled to what they want, not just what they need.
. m2 T% X5 A3 V" }1 vThey feel envious of friends who get more—and someone will always get more.
! y6 u: U9 g& K" E @1 }% o5 \ They feel disappointed, because enough is never enough.
" t, |) F+ C0 ]- s% M2 e Long term, they develop materialistic values that equate personal celebrations with accumulating things./ ?7 h3 Q8 N1 O
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For Parents: ' k( ]# a- R9 p3 C5 M
Some parents say they are happy with birthday parties that drive other parents up the wall. But we have talked to many parents who report these consequences.' J: ?$ I' r: {
They feel pressured to “make” their child “happy” by meeting escalating community standards for parties.
; E* Y5 y5 p, U/ \. G- [They feel guilty if the party was below community standards that they don’t really agree with. / U& `: I4 g2 N! F, u
They feel overloaded with TOO MUCH STUFF, which they have to manage, organize, and clean up.* ~* J/ L+ R. [2 ^1 E2 j
They feel an energy drain from planning, shopping, preparing, and hosting the party.
# U8 Y8 w2 k/ f* }- ^They feel regret or resentment afterwards when their child, or others, is not appreciative enough—“Why did I extend myself so much?”. j% t" y1 i! Y0 F$ K& v/ |
They run up debt from their own parties and from buying gifts for other parties.
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For the Community and Culture: & l( W4 E) O0 \8 Z
This issue is bigger than individual families. Personal decisions affect the wider world. Out of control birthday parties contribute to:% Z9 p& {& _% Y# p5 V
A too much stuff culture , q3 J1 ]+ e6 B2 L! T
A me first culture
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An entitlement culture
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楼主: babalala001
狗仔卡
发表于 2011-4-15 18:34
显身卡
。 我老大三岁不到时被邀请参加了一个三岁小朋友的生日会，整个过程的程式化，送的东西昂贵又垃圾程度，父母劳命伤财的准备，孩子无所谓的样子，把我刺激的不轻，决定5岁前肯定不办生日 ...
发表于 2011-4-15 18:44
智慧女神总是那么高瞻远瞩
还以为三大爷挺老实的，在您的精心调教下
发表于 2011-4-16 11:10