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本帖最后由 三思 于 2011-4-16 09:04 编辑 : g/ U0 l( O0 n8 l" h
幼儿园还要再给他像你说的这样办一遍的，和家长弄是不矛盾的，美好记忆完全可以更多一点，没有必要限制，只要精力和财力允许，完全可以办生日会，生日会怎么算也算不着不好的风气
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sweetlele 发表于 2011-4-15 22:43 
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8 n" R* q' s) g7 v: _我认为大型生日会是不良风气，因为一部分有精力财力的家庭给没有精力财力的家庭造成了压力，父母因为担心孩子因此受到压力，而不得不举办同样形式的生日会。而这种形式并没有赋予生日会特别的意义。比如乐乐你设定的20元礼物符合标准，一个月9个生日，180元礼品预算，承受不起的家庭，是不是就没有能力让自己孩子参加朋友的生日会这样的社交活动？
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我家的财力精力大概不能和乐乐家比，但是我觉得给小孩子的生日大肆刷卡不是一件值得提倡的事情，有悖我的教育观念。
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另外，我搜了一下，中外对小孩子生日会都有反对声音。这个网站特别好，http://birthdayswithoutpressure.org/专门讲生日会的，为什么当前的生日会是不良风气，有比我更多更好的解释和说明。其中也提到了乐乐你说的学校办一遍家长办一遍的问题，提到了孩子要赶很多生日会的问题。2 H. v/ o o7 v( R- x% v
7 |) q0 p' S! b5 ?$ ~" L对孩子的不良影响也有非常详细的列举
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For Kids: & Y3 A5 f `- F4 K' B
Not all children face each of these consequences, but enough children experience them to give us worry. / |) |. v9 G' ?7 y# c& M" X: ^! {
They get stressed out from parties that are too large and too orchestrated.* o( [" k. O S% J6 t
They are overindulged by too many presents. 7 z% C) u" g% G7 i1 m; n
They feel entitled to what they want, not just what they need. 9 A1 a; b& }9 e ]" Y
They feel envious of friends who get more—and someone will always get more.
0 G2 L' y: A9 D' b0 e) I0 m; C They feel disappointed, because enough is never enough.
% i( q/ I" }% f4 n Long term, they develop materialistic values that equate personal celebrations with accumulating things.
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Some parents say they are happy with birthday parties that drive other parents up the wall. But we have talked to many parents who report these consequences.0 s5 i- f, E* B: ]' U
They feel pressured to “make” their child “happy” by meeting escalating community standards for parties. ! m/ d* `/ g/ X
They feel guilty if the party was below community standards that they don’t really agree with. + n( U$ U+ R7 q* J3 S9 I4 @
They feel overloaded with TOO MUCH STUFF, which they have to manage, organize, and clean up.
' l) ~) o1 q, D. x* I LThey feel an energy drain from planning, shopping, preparing, and hosting the party.
( T3 K' P+ ]* z! tThey feel regret or resentment afterwards when their child, or others, is not appreciative enough—“Why did I extend myself so much?”
/ j# C: J7 H- hThey run up debt from their own parties and from buying gifts for other parties.) i4 D: d6 E! [4 b" E# Q
They experience couple strife when parents do not agree on how big to make the party and how to carry it off.
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This issue is bigger than individual families. Personal decisions affect the wider world. Out of control birthday parties contribute to:* B# G2 G* d! Y* A; |# J& {
A too much stuff culture
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9 c/ x/ O; x# i/ N8 GA trash and waste culture
( {; |- q! p! r, m! J% c* e# qAn entitlement culture
! v! o5 p* @- ^" J" VA envy culture/ `. a/ o9 D V5 _( Q
A more of everything culture |
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楼主: babalala001
狗仔卡
发表于 2011-4-15 18:34
显身卡
。 我老大三岁不到时被邀请参加了一个三岁小朋友的生日会，整个过程的程式化，送的东西昂贵又垃圾程度，父母劳命伤财的准备，孩子无所谓的样子，把我刺激的不轻，决定5岁前肯定不办生日 ...
发表于 2011-4-15 18:44
智慧女神总是那么高瞻远瞩
还以为三大爷挺老实的，在您的精心调教下
发表于 2011-4-16 11:10