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本帖最后由 三思 于 2011-4-16 09:04 编辑 $ S O; u1 s0 f5 m7 q& P H
幼儿园还要再给他像你说的这样办一遍的,和家长弄是不矛盾的,美好记忆完全可以更多一点,没有必要限制,只要精力和财力允许,完全可以办生日会,生日会怎么算也算不着不好的风气
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娃是很知道party的special的, ...7 c% _7 C3 q7 }4 Z
sweetlele 发表于 2011-4-15 22:43  + J2 \3 j6 L! {+ B$ H' ?
; F, m- R& @ e$ e/ z( |我认为大型生日会是不良风气,因为一部分有精力财力的家庭给没有精力财力的家庭造成了压力,父母因为担心孩子因此受到压力,而不得不举办同样形式的生日会。而这种形式并没有赋予生日会特别的意义。比如乐乐你设定的20元礼物符合标准,一个月9个生日,180元礼品预算,承受不起的家庭,是不是就没有能力让自己孩子参加朋友的生日会这样的社交活动?: v- r4 I7 B8 o1 G- |
4 V% @& c4 O* Y6 J# ?, ]( T我家的财力精力大概不能和乐乐家比,但是我觉得给小孩子的生日大肆刷卡不是一件值得提倡的事情,有悖我的教育观念。
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3 P0 C+ q8 a6 e9 m* U4 w另外,我搜了一下,中外对小孩子生日会都有反对声音。这个网站特别好,http://birthdayswithoutpressure.org/专门讲生日会的,为什么当前的生日会是不良风气,有比我更多更好的解释和说明。其中也提到了乐乐你说的学校办一遍家长办一遍的问题,提到了孩子要赶很多生日会的问题。( S" P8 _- z9 N5 W! ?
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对孩子的不良影响也有非常详细的列举
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For Kids:
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0 P0 i# H" Z6 K+ D" QThey get stressed out from parties that are too large and too orchestrated.
4 W2 h H7 B& z( A [ They are overindulged by too many presents. : C: B1 j; }; i5 l
They feel entitled to what they want, not just what they need. 6 Z6 h+ R! T4 A4 k
They feel envious of friends who get more—and someone will always get more.
& c# i- c" G( \1 x" @/ \& q9 I They feel disappointed, because enough is never enough.2 z3 f _, {0 q/ E. M- Z% [/ L
Long term, they develop materialistic values that equate personal celebrations with accumulating things.2 \4 J( t. b- \# p# j! @, D, J E
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For Parents: " ?9 ?/ `& e, Z
Some parents say they are happy with birthday parties that drive other parents up the wall. But we have talked to many parents who report these consequences.
/ \. q1 `7 Q$ P M2 z3 UThey feel pressured to “make” their child “happy” by meeting escalating community standards for parties. + N5 o0 s- h# u% r
They feel guilty if the party was below community standards that they don’t really agree with.
/ @! A# p6 R2 F/ x/ N5 sThey feel overloaded with TOO MUCH STUFF, which they have to manage, organize, and clean up.- c7 Q* b: A( I! h; m" e
They feel an energy drain from planning, shopping, preparing, and hosting the party.
* H! N$ x b* r3 fThey feel regret or resentment afterwards when their child, or others, is not appreciative enough—“Why did I extend myself so much?”
6 ^+ M4 P/ x7 R0 g& oThey run up debt from their own parties and from buying gifts for other parties.% D& H2 y# E1 l) ?, z! u, }
They experience couple strife when parents do not agree on how big to make the party and how to carry it off.
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7 r" A4 v: ~! r* ]* }. }# }* qFor the Community and Culture: ) W/ V0 x$ ]. a) |- u
This issue is bigger than individual families. Personal decisions affect the wider world. Out of control birthday parties contribute to:
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A trash and waste culture+ Z2 x' w4 a1 a9 x, \5 F, Y2 |
An entitlement culture
3 B- k1 r) @0 H) g l/ ^* OA envy culture
+ n: R p4 _" t; @A more of everything culture |
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