pretty 发表于 2012-11-24 22:58 ! d' ]1 U, ]/ O% Q: D我觉得还是两个理由吧,一个就是我不能对她的安全负责,有风险问题我不能够保证(就是这个风险是怎么说的, ...
, [; ^. h6 P- _" s' X建议楼主告诉她你走高速方便,送她不方便,这个理由就很正常了。除非你们两家住隔壁,否则不方便就是最合理的理由。' t, T$ L0 p0 f) x4 T; A& Z0 c
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她自己也知道换公交车很辛苦,那就告诉她让她去学车,如果她不去学,说明纯是占便宜,就不用愧疚。她等车是因为她不会开车,如果她意识到等车很辛苦,又不去学车,那她就没有理由抱怨等车的辛苦。都是一个过程走下来,自己要对自己的行为负责。另一个人不载她说明这件事已经有前车之鉴。如果你不载她,你的同事也不会觉得你残忍。$ l) b# S' ?/ q, I, B
实际上,在北美拒绝别人不需要理由,因为那是你的权利,需要的是勇气、中国人不习惯的维护自我权利的坚定态度以及本地人的虚伪。 1 l! _. }$ s/ E% f( N7 }5 R: O$ ~9 _1 V
如果是我,我可能会说:+ [" n; M6 |7 x9 |* y; E
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"I know it's very hard for you to get home by bus all the way from the company, especially in a cold day like this. I wish I could help you everyday. Unfortunately, I am not able to help you (on this matter) any more. I am sorry about that. I have my own family to take care of. Right now my kids are staying at the daycare and waiting for me anxiously. I have to leave right now. Take care. See you tomorrow."