<转帖>孩子是因你而来,不是为你而来

秀色可餐

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今天偶然看到这首纪伯伦的诗，觉得很好，贴出来和大家一起分享

On Children
Kahlil Gibran
Your children are not your children.
+ n8 E& v/ c( C! pThey are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
, `. [& `; X0 bAnd though they are with you yet they belong not to you.
You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
% h. Z, {# V+ C% A, k; PFor their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
/ r& l* b7 ?. u  W. Jwhich you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them,
but seek not to make them like you.
2 a3 C, V1 f, a. M" ~9 t& _( TFor life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
You are the bows from which your children
2 E6 s, N1 W7 D# U2 _as living arrows are sent forth.
. K: k; X# O. o! t. A( a& zThe archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,
- K: H% `  [& i- i9 S% J( g& ^and He bends you with His might
that His arrows may go swift and far.
+ n9 R( |( F* p2 i6 q  V8 V9 WLet your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies,
so He loves also the bow that is stable.

秀色可餐

下面是中文翻译，可能不是很贴切。当你真正体会到其中的涵义时，便会发现其中“爱”、“放手”、“分清责任”、“信任”、“尊重”、“正向信念”这些家庭教育的真谛都包含其中。
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你的子女，其实不是你的子女。
他们是生命对于自身渴望而诞生的孩子。
他们借助你来到这世界，却非因你而来。
他们在你身旁，却并不属于你。
  h+ M8 n1 `, y6 Y你可以给予他们的是你的爱，却不是你的思想，
. ~6 s  c' C7 B# W; P+ M因为他们有自己的思想。
你可以庇护的是他们的身体，却不是他们的灵魂，
; b; |. g) w3 `& U; L6 }6 T; `( {& [因为他们的灵魂属于明天，属于你做梦都无法到达的明天，
你可以拚尽全力，变得像他们一样，
却不要让他们变得和你一样，
因为生命不会后退，也不在过去停留。
7 `; E2 B: k! A3 @1 C3 e你是弓，儿女是从你那里射出的箭。
弓箭手望着未来之路上的箭靶，
8 n  g$ ~3 D' O; `' x5 r它用尽力气将你拉开，使他的箭射得又快又远。
怀着快乐的心情，在弓箭手的手中弯曲吧，
3 X' i6 [- O+ d因为他爱一路飞翔的箭，也爱无比稳定的弓。

马桶上的思想家

太美了，而且句句精辟深刻！

钱小妹

体会体会，非常有理

Rainbowjj

真是好文，谢谢分享！！！