How to make yourself happier?

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* A, F5 ~9 `! w2 [4 L+ W1 NRon Hubbard wrote a poem which is a guide to happiness.
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"Force yourself to smile and you’ll soon stop frowning.
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"Force yourself to laugh and you’ll soon find something to laugh about.
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"Wax* enthusiastic** and you’ll very soon feel so.

8 o3 y/ S1 ^: V  f: d5 a0 c"A being causes his own feelings.
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3 D* b: U$ K5 t' D: _5 c"The greatest joy there is in life is creating.
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"Splurge on it!" — L. Ron Hubbard
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Four Steps to Make Yourself Happier
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1. "Force yourself to smile and you’ll soon stop frowning."

Try this exercise.
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# ~  H) o0 l/ G* uA. Smile
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B. Don’t smile
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C. Smile
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D. Don’t smile

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F. Don’t smile
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G. Repeat the above until you are cheerful.

Do this exercise whenever you are frowning, upset, depressed, angry, apathetic or resentful.
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! o- i; E7 i. M( g: [Try the exercise in front of a mirror for an extra boost.
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2. "Force yourself to laugh and you’ll soon find something to laugh about."

This exercise is useful when you are feeling stressed out or too serious.

, D/ E1 y" ^5 }4 \; wA. Force a laugh.

B. If this is difficult for you to do, say, "ha ha ha ha ha." Then say, "ho, ho, ho, ho, ho." Then say, "he, he, he, he, he."
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, b( H; x$ ^6 `' Z& t5 U( iC. Repeat the above until you find something to laugh about.
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3. "Wax enthusiastic and you’ll very soon feel so."

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A. Write down a task you are avoiding or hate to do.
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B. Ask yourself, "What about this task is interesting?" Write down the answer.

2 G4 j& ^3 j4 k0 N) b4 TC. Ask yourself, "What could I be a little excited about regarding this task?" Write down the answer.
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7 E$ q8 C" `) v6 b& X' eD. Ask yourself, "What could I be enthusiastic about regarding this task?" Write down the answer.

E. Repeat steps B, C and D until you feel enthusiastic about doing the task.
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$ D9 j1 E6 X' W! |5 sYou might be surprised at how quickly this works.
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4. "The greatest joy there is in life is creating."
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What are your greatest joys in life?
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8 h, W. C, z' S: GBeing a parent? Starting a company? Finding new customers? Forming new relationships?

: n2 `) s# u. @$ wNotice how each activity creates something?
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A. Write down three things you can create today.
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/ j- J5 Z, ~  J1 q9 S$ vB. Do them.

C. Notice if your day is more joyful.

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The happiest individuals, families and groups are those that create things.
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, Z" [( c, B0 V" N$ L  J9 o6 QThe most exciting goals you can have involve creating something.
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' t: @( |) X: C  m( K  MIn fact, all of your success is your creation.

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3 L0 Y* |4 m. G5 R! x6 CImprove Your Daily Life - 7 Easy Ways to Make Yourself Happier
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* T* }* j1 ?6 x' R1. Assertiveness
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One of the best ways to improve your daily life is to learn to be assertive. Assertiveness training classes should be available for you to attend in major cities. Often universities or community colleges will offer them. Sometimes you can find them offered by private companies. There are also many books on the subject and you can learn about it on the web. Assertiveness is taking care of your self without hurting others.
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2. Positive Affirmations
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" Q  W' C* @5 Z8 Y3 u9 \You can also apply positive affirmations to your daily life. This is a big help for developing positive self-esteem. That doesn't mean egotism（自我中心）, it means seeing that you are a worthy person. You can help yourself feel better by using positive affirmations. It can be done in only a few minutes a day.

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3. Self-Hypnosis
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3 f9 Q0 q8 f6 z# |7 GSelf-hypnosis is a powerful tool for improving your emotional life. It is a simple and comfortable way to solve problems and develop a better perspective and heal yourself.

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4. Exercise
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Don't forget exercise. Physical exercise is not only good for your body, it can help you feel emotionally better and make it easier for you to focus. Leonard Morehouse developed a program to train the astronauts to keep fit in zero gravity and small confined areas. His book is called Total Fitness in 30 Minutes a Week. (Not a day; a week--three 10 minutes sessions a week) It is available used at bookstores and online.

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" N! b' `0 {! P% Z1 `5. Self-Help
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8 a; B% h% c/ u8 X1 r6 k' uHere is a site that has articles on self-help in many areas. It is edited by a licensed psychologist:
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Type in your search engine: selfhelpmagazine

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6. Yoga

You might also consider some sort of yoga. A very popular form is TM which is widely available. TM was developed by Maharishi Mahesh Yogi as a way for 'householders' (people who have domestic responsibilities and can't go live in a monastery) to get the benefits of this kind of practice while maintaining their normal lifestyle. Yoga will relax the person and make life easier to deal with.

You can probably find yoga classes of many kinds nearby. There are also yoga programs on television and there are many books on the subject available at the library or bookstores.
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" v0 Z2 L( s2 g0 e1 p7. Chanting
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% K4 Q' s; [1 r3 Y. t3 TAnother popular program is Nichiren Shoshu. This is an ancient denomination of Buddhism which involves chanting which helps a person to get centered and calm. It is easy to do and there may be a group near you that meets regularly. Paste in your search engine to find out more:
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Type in your search engine: nst

Not many people will want to do all these things, but it is certainly possible to do several at the same time. These good activities support and enhance each other and make progress that much faster.
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; b4 H% X! I9 L) d6 w* }You can take control of your life by taking control of your mind, body and emotions. You can start today and begin to feel better right away.

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Used to try some of them. Very useful and practical.

PTL

YEH!

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大家还可以分享一下对自己最为有效的让自己开心的方法。
对我来说：休息，散步，到商店转转，能非常快地转移压力和不好的情绪，你们呢？