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I would like to take this chance to talk about the issues of how to make a last and profound conversation with locals since some friends have complained that they only have the ability to do the short talks with co-workers or strangers. I call the short talk the Cold War, meaning it is a long last personal struggle or an impossible mission. I still remember I have encountered few embarrass seniors few years ago, but things are getting better year after year. Since this summer, I start to feel very comfortable as I chat with people I met every day. For example, I need to find some info around the place I just moved in. While I was driving around the blocks this afternoon, I saw a good lady was mending her yard. She was the only person I can find, so I decided to talk to this lady. I parked the car and greeted to her. I asked her about the neighborhood such as banks, supermarkets and so on. She answered me with her best capability. Then she invited me to her condo to have a little chat. She wrote down some of the contact names and the numbers of her friends in case I need more help and told me about few neighbor’s stories. At the end, I got plenty of information than I intended to. It all came very natural and our conversation was quite enjoyable.
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So here are some of self-made rules which have worked well for me.
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" `! w* z/ F: M F: F. ZEvery morning, practice the chat and image that you are both A and B actors or actresses:
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1 z, z3 I& I' X+ LDay 1: Good morning, Sandra (You)& J" c$ K# o) p" e6 w7 l
Good morning, Ming. How are you? (Co-worker)
& P5 A9 s- x, T7 l I am fine, thanks! (You)
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3 z. j) ^2 e8 N1 g" JDay 2: Repeat Day 1 (You)
9 O) J) K) P! Z1 ] Repeat Day 1 (Co-worker)
& X8 X& I4 Y& v' e/ t% | I am fine, and how are you. (You); W ^/ l2 X6 n4 s5 G
Not too bad, I like your shirt; it looks gorgers (Co-Worker)" h8 ~2 v& p0 v' m9 V8 U
Thanks, I bought it from China last summer. (You)
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Day 3: Repeat
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I could not be better, Thank god it is Friday. (Co-worker)- @" ?+ d [# x( @% h
Finally, so do you have plan for the weekend? (You). S' U- L" Z. v" Z
Oh, ya, I am going to visit my mother-in-law even I hates her, but my husband will make me to see her. (Co-worker)
: G% M3 D& x- m% v0 L8 O5 b Poor you, oh, I wish you have a good weekend, and come back with a good mood. You know what I mean. (You)1 G. S7 M9 T0 r% U8 b) K1 g: V2 o5 p
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Repeat
$ S# ]; \$ r0 R+ ?& t1 k4 a How was your weekend? (You)
% n# R) X ^& f) b w( e2 s' K) t Not bad. My mother-in-law was so tolerable this time, and she made a big super. So we all sit outside and enjoyed the beautiful day with family. (Co-worker)
. ?3 B) w- x3 q# B! |4 F5 s Is that right? Where does your mother-in-law live? (You)
! O" _# |; X [, _ Pigeon Lake. It was packed on the weekend. (Co-worker)! {8 Y8 j1 e, s4 a
Oh, Pigeon Lake, I have been there once and we caught some good fish.
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1 a) B- N2 {" [$ t4 Q7 } Then you see the boss walking by9 S$ E% Y! m/ d8 A% r6 B
It is time to stop. _8 t7 K% K4 L: V
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( b$ a+ h' l) O0 NThe above mentioned examples are under daily small talks or gossip category. The serious business conversation will be with another topic.2 o$ w. v5 B& }5 \. s
And I advise everyone should find the way that works best for her/him.8 U/ y; k% v& W4 D$ j$ ^& ^6 I
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