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Originally posted by shuishijie at 2005-6-24 12:15 PM:
" Z8 Y! T+ P/ q( ]/ Zi sense a little tension here 6 r; y/ |+ T0 _; m3 ]* \7 k
sorry, i didn't mean you by 'you' which is a general reference.8 l0 [+ g) z/ d
back to our discussion, you are absolutely right.
/ H# H1 D' L2 B& B% dif she/he 有那金刚钻, ie. intelligence and self-control, then she/he 就能揽这瓷器活儿.
v7 P* d- F g/ J# E+ AFurthermore, if she/he cheated and is able to hide it for the rest of her/his life, then she/he has to bear with the guilty for the rest of her/his life.
6 S% V- Y; E6 }5 lIf both cheated and can face it very well, then both of them will be worried if the other will cheat again.
! U4 r6 {1 a4 H' X: g' l$ OIf both are not worried about the other cheating, then is this a marriage you want?8 p# ?; ^7 C4 h- o
Not mean you here
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没有没有，没有任何敌意, 随便聊天。+ `! J9 N% o5 `
" V1 N2 X2 W# H1 I3 [其实我只是说一种可能性，并没有道德评价，或者人身安插。
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你后面的三种情形，不同的人，不同的情商，不同的原则，处理情况也不同，有的一样可以花好月圆，有的则是一团乱麻。所以我说的“金刚钻“的比喻，是说没有大家都搞定的本事（搞定情人老婆劳工和自己），就别冒险。
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比如前几天看到杂志里谈到“处理婚外恋“说得好，向你的伴侣坦白之前，先想一想，如果你只是想摆脱guilty感觉，那么向伴侣坦白，等于把自己的负担转移给你的伴侣而已，对你的婚姻毫无好处，那么不如跟心理医生讲述。除非这次婚外行为有性疾病的可能，你需要带你的伴侣去就医。所以还是说呢， if you can not take the heat, get out of the kitchen.
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. {( \$ ], B6 M$ v1 A v% `$ W我本人对夫妻远距离生存，各找临时情人，是持理解通融的态度的。我并不羡慕那些多年分离还守身如玉的夫妻。当然我也崇尚夫妻的忠诚，所以我更希望的是常相厮守。 |
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