<转帖>孩子是因你而来,不是为你而来

秀色可餐

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今天偶然看到这首纪伯伦的诗，觉得很好，贴出来和大家一起分享
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On Children
Kahlil Gibran
- A, {  u4 f2 G) r: V. xYour children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
, o0 Z" L( d4 b. g, u+ C& m9 X1 rAnd though they are with you yet they belong not to you.
You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
2 @2 m" ~/ P# D9 k9 X# eYou may house their bodies but not their souls,
! C9 {2 w0 a" X2 b+ ^/ HFor their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
/ S, b8 k* c% M; A' P* O" H% [7 Hwhich you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
6 a, m/ M3 g& x4 ^* ]5 d5 ^5 h" qYou may strive to be like them,
+ n. i0 Q* s2 Ybut seek not to make them like you.
9 O) ]2 c% b7 h0 a' i. r! u3 _For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
You are the bows from which your children
- `! s/ D7 V9 i) y% Vas living arrows are sent forth.
, u) r/ D4 R  s; KThe archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,
, R  H$ e: ?1 H2 L; {7 U) }and He bends you with His might
that His arrows may go swift and far.
. E" T6 {; }" q: Y& ~! E3 Q: QLet your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness;
+ ?) H; q# v, o4 P) QFor even as He loves the arrow that flies,
( b; W; G$ ]& C/ \+ Aso He loves also the bow that is stable.

秀色可餐

下面是中文翻译，可能不是很贴切。当你真正体会到其中的涵义时，便会发现其中“爱”、“放手”、“分清责任”、“信任”、“尊重”、“正向信念”这些家庭教育的真谛都包含其中。

: y1 i( m. M2 H. \你的子女，其实不是你的子女。
他们是生命对于自身渴望而诞生的孩子。
! D1 M; V3 i/ [! Y/ F& b他们借助你来到这世界，却非因你而来。
/ Q' o* z! h: E他们在你身旁，却并不属于你。
你可以给予他们的是你的爱，却不是你的思想，
因为他们有自己的思想。
你可以庇护的是他们的身体，却不是他们的灵魂，
因为他们的灵魂属于明天，属于你做梦都无法到达的明天，
9 Y4 a3 U5 x0 z. i* G) e你可以拚尽全力，变得像他们一样，
却不要让他们变得和你一样，
因为生命不会后退，也不在过去停留。
你是弓，儿女是从你那里射出的箭。
弓箭手望着未来之路上的箭靶，
它用尽力气将你拉开，使他的箭射得又快又远。
怀着快乐的心情，在弓箭手的手中弯曲吧，
因为他爱一路飞翔的箭，也爱无比稳定的弓。

马桶上的思想家

太美了，而且句句精辟深刻！

钱小妹

体会体会，非常有理

Rainbowjj

真是好文，谢谢分享！！！